I tell my kids that our habits of thought and action shape our lives and our experience of the world around us. What we focus on and engage with repeatedly gets stronger; what we don’t engage with diminishes. What this means for me is that I can make a difference in my outer world most easily by tending to my inner world. When I feel better, my life feels better, and then the world around me feels better too.
Reflecting as a mother on the transition my teenage son is making toward manhood, and how I can best support him.
I’m writing right after a full moon, reflecting on struggle, trauma, and how full moon energy can stir things up. This post includes thoughts on compassion for self and others, and the sense that something larger is holding us.
When the inner critic gets out of hand, the sense that something’s wrong with your parenting can be crippling. But inside of you and your children an undamaged presence shines like the sun, and the clouds that sometimes cover it are only temporary.
What if the inner critic’s drive to fix everything is part of the problem? The most effective thing we can do to make a difference is not whatever work we do in the world around us. It’s to become conscious of the roles we’re playing in the stories we are part of.
Anxiety and overwhelm feel horrible. And a scattered, dis-regulated nervous system affects EVERYTHING, especially our relationships. Breathing can help. In this post I share how paying attention to your breath can help you calm your nervous system, bring you back to yourself, and even help ease the sense that there is never enough time.
On finding the sacred in everyday moments like breakfast – personal peace practices of presence, reverence, connection, pleasure, and gratitude for 2026.
In the culture and times that most of us are finding ourselves in right now, this is the most counter-intuitive work there is — and by far the most needed.
Volition is a source of energy that informs our intentions and energizes our actions, but not all volition comes from the heart. When we’re swept away by clever, compelling messaging from outside of ourselves, we lose touch with our internal volition — with our values and our authentic desires.
If you grew up without learning that mistakes are ok you may have developed a strong inner critic who, like a 5 year old trying to prevent trouble, now controls your adult life to keep you from taking risks. The antidote is to give your self the compassionate leadership you missed out on when you were growing up.