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A Real Green Life, Without the “Shoulding”
“REAL” – genuine, authentic, true (as opposed to performed, artificial, imitated, or virtual).
“GREEN” – regenerative/doing as little harm as possible.
“SELF-COMPASSION” – so we can ditch the shoulds, perfectionism, and eco-guilt while we’re being real and green.
Updated July 2026.
Why We Try to Fix Other People, and What Might Happen if We Didn’t
It’s uncomfortable to be around someone who is suffering because it wakes up all that’s untended to within our own selves. We can’t stand that, so we hurry to put a band aide over what-ever is hurting in the other person, to quiet things down again, so we can get back to pretending we’re fine.
What if the Science Doesn’t Tell the Whole Story?
Science is when someone asks nature a specific question and receives a specific answer. Science is ALSO when a bunch of fallible human beings all interact with each other in complicated ways to finally agree on what scientific theories they will then present to the rest of the world.
Where Are Our Choices Taking Us?
Choices are like coins – they always have two sides, and both sides stack up in terms of the direction we’re going.
On “Not Enough Time,” and “Not Good Enough”
A short post on how we use our time and those uncomfortable feelings of “not enough time,” and “not good enough.” Turns out, they might all be connected.
How Tending Your Inner Parts, Besides Making You Feel Better, Helps Mend the World
As you learn to inhabit your core Self more easily, and from there to bring your internal world into emotional regulation, you’re also developing the capacities that our wider world is asking of us.
Strategy #5 – What’s Shaping Your Grocery Shopping Habits?
Our physical and social environments have huge influence on our habits and behaviors. People who design supermarkets and sell products know this and take full advantage of it. This post will help you examine what’s shaping your shopping routines and your buying decisions, and learn how to change them.
Strategy #4 – to Help Parents Spend Less at the Supermarket
Strategy #4 to help you dethrone the supermarket giants. Includes a link to the previous 3 strategies.
New Beginnings in the Garden of You
We all have an inner life — an inner “garden.” When we neglect it, the useful, beautiful things in it whither and diminish, and the weeds take over. This post shares ways to help your inner garden thrive by tending it in alignment with Nature’s seasons.