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Moving from Control Toward Intelligent Interaction, in Gardening and in Life

Moving from Control toward Intelligent Interaction, in Gardening and in Life

About a 10 minute read
31st January, 2022

What gardeners do is somewhere on a continuum from controlling  the life (and death) cycles in the garden, to managing them, to interacting intelligently with them. We tend to default to control because of our culturally ingrained assumption that without control there will be chaos and anarchy.

This has implications far beyond the garden. How do our assumptions about the need for control shape our world?

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The Commons, Common Sense, and a Common Field of Consciousness

The Commons, Common Sense, and a Common Field of Consciousness

about a 4 minute read

21st century science now finally agrees with Eastern philosophy and Indigenous wisdom that we share a common field of consciousness.

It's hidden in plain site, all around us all the time. It's even more under-appreciated and under-utilized than the other forms of "the commons" that we share.

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When “Do Something” Fails, There is Another Way

When "Do Something" Fails, There Is Another Way

About a 3 minute read

The logical mind wants to muscle its way to the results we want; when muscle is inadequate to the task, we think we’ve failed and we’re out of options.

The heart, on the other hand, is not afraid to invoke the results we want by the quality of our attention and the power of our desire to give what we don’t physically have to give.  

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Expanding on the Grandmother Effect

Expanding on the Grandmother Effect

About an 18 minute read. Download the free PDF here.

The “Grandmother Hypothesis,” or Grandmother Effect, is the idea that the presence of grandmothers helping in the care of their grand-offspring has been an important factor in human survival and evolution. 

I think that the powers of older women extend far beyond babysitting (valuable as that is), and I think we need their contributions more now than ever before. Here's why.

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Through the Lenses of Separation vs Interbeing

Through the Lenses of Separation and Interbeing

About a 2 minute read

Logical, rational thinking understandably sees things as separate. 'I am me; that is something "other" than me.'

The “other” can be another person, another group separate from the group to which I belong, or a non-human entity like a river or a forest.

There is another way to see things. Through a lens of interbeing, I am still me, but now I recognize that I’m closely related to everything that the mindset of separation calls “other.”

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