Why We Try to Fix Other People, and What Might Happen if We Didn’t

It’s uncomfortable to be around someone who is suffering because it wakes up all that’s untended to within our own selves. We can’t stand that, so we hurry to put a band aide over what-ever is hurting in the other person, to quiet things down again, so we can get back to pretending we’re fine.

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How Tending Your Inner Parts, Besides Making You Feel Better, Helps Mend the World

As you learn to inhabit your core Self more easily, and from there to bring your internal world into emotional regulation, you’re also developing the capacities that our wider world is asking of us.

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Moving from Control Toward Intelligent Interaction, in Gardening and in Life

​What gardeners do ​is somewhere on a continuum from controlling the ​life (and death) cycles in the garden, to managing them, to interacting intelligently with them. We tend to default to ​control because of our culturally ingrained assumption that without control there will be chaos and anarchy.

​​This has implications far beyond the garden. How do our ​​assumptions about the need for control shape our world?

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The Commons, Common Sense, and a Common Field of Consciousness

21st century science now finally agrees with Eastern philosophy and Indigenous wisdom that we share a common field of consciousness. It’s hidden in plain site, all around us all the time. It’s even more under-appreciated and under-utilized ​than ​the other forms of “the commons” that we share.

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When “Do Something” Fails, There is Another Way

The logical mind wants to muscle its way to the results we want; when muscle is inadequate to the task, we think we’ve failed and we’re out of options.
The heart, on the other hand, is not afraid to invoke the results we want by the quality of our attention and the power of our desire to give what we don’t physically have to give.

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Expanding on the Grandmother Effect

How women, and older women in particular, can contribute to peace and well-being for families, communities, and the wider web of life.

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Through the Lenses of Separation vs Interbeing

Logical, rational thinking understandably sees things as separate. ‘I am me; everything else is something “other” than me.’ There is another way to see things. Through a lens of interbeing, I am still me, but now I recognize that I’m closely related to everything that the mindset of separation calls “other.”

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