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Thinking for Ourselves

in ways that build inner resilience

The world we have created is a product of our thinking. If we want to change the world, we have to change our thinking.

~ Albert Einstein 


In these posts, I explore our assumptions about our selves and our purpose in the world, ideas for reclaiming our sovereignty as individuals, and how we can build our capacity to care more effectively for whatever needs our care (which starts with our inner selves). 

I get into how our ways of thinking, being, and relating shape our lives and our world. 

I also get into how we can develop our ability to live a self-directed life (as opposed to a life directed by things outside our selves, including but not limited to the consumer culture that surrounds us). 

You may particularly enjoy these posts if you are someone who sometimes finds yourself coping with feelings like depression, overwhelm, impotence, grief, rage, or guilt.

Why? Because feelings like these are a healthy response to the overwhelming nature of the ecological and social crises we are collectively facing. They're also a healthy response to the individual circumstances many of us have grown up in, or find ourselves in now. If this is how you sometimes feel, know that it's not because there's anything wrong with you. 

It's no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.

~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

I don't have solutions to the dilemmas we face, but I do have hope. I don't have answers, but I do have questions -- and I passionately believe that the questions we ask shape the answers we receive.

There are no quick fixes here. Instead, my aim is to acknowledge the frustration, grief, and despair that are on the other side of the coins of hope and possibility...

... and also to share stories, perspectives, prompts, insights, and resources that I find  helpful and hopeful.



Parenting yourself to keep "growing up" is not easy; in fact it's the hardest work you'll ever do. It's also far and away the most important and useful work you'll ever do, both for your own personal benefit and for everything you care about in the World.

This category of posts explores ways to keep growing emotionally and spiritually, to become more aware, empowered, present, and engaged. As you do, you'll become better able to hold space for reconciliation, healing, repair, and possibility - within yourself and also in the world around you.

You can't wait till you're perfect before you show up and take action, but you can be gentle with yourself, commit to your own growth and learningbe mindful of what influences your thinking, and consciously choose how you will respond to the world around you.


This collection of posts explores how we can reconnect with each other, with ourselves, and with nature, including our own inner guidance and the natural cycles of life.

"It was in [a setting of belonging and connection] that we emerged as a species. Our profound feelings of lacking something are not a reflection of personal failure, but the reflection of a society that has failed to offer us what we were designed to expect."    ~ Francis Weller

"The idea that we live in something called 'the environment' is utterly preposterous... The world that environs us, that is around us, is also within us. We are made of it; we eat, drink, and breathe it; it is bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh."  ~ Wendell Berry 



The consumer culture has a straight and narrow path with "parental figures" to keep us on it: globalized corporations (manipulating us into states of endless desire for "more"), and well-meaning government institutions (holding our hands and relieving us of all personal responsibility). 

This path leads us into a form of juvenile dependency that may last our whole lives. 

On this dependency treadmill, consumers spend their life pursuing the dopamine hits that come with each new thing, each bigger, shinier, faster widget that will surely, at last, bring peace of mind and happiness.

Who in their right mind would live a life like this on purpose?

There is another path.

It leads to increasing self-actualization and self-determination, and decreasing reliance on experts, institutions, and the short-term quick fixes that drive the consumer economy.  


Have you ever felt that you're existing in an uneasy state that switches back and forth between mild concern, alarm, and/or a feeling of numbness or avoidance? “I’ll do what I can, and when I don't know what to do I’ll try not to think about it.”

  • What can we do to make a difference—in our own personal lives and for the many issues we care about?
  • Where should we focus our efforts, assuming we have any spare time and energy to focus with?
  • What can we do to help ourselves if we have no spare time and energy?
  • Is it selfish or wrong to want to live a meaningful, satisfying life personally, when so much is going on in the world around us?
  • Is it enough to be working to raise a family, to get off the consumption treadmill, and to make some small difference in our own little sphere of influence, enough?

This 10-part Series of articles came out of my search for answers to questions like these, and for the strategies I needed to make my answers stick. Here's what I found:

  • hope and perspective,
  • distinctions and strategies for making more of a difference in your own personal life,
  • and why I think that taking care of your own “small” stuff, is a viable way of also doing your part to take care of our Earth.

I haven't found all the answers far from it. And the strategies I've found don't always work (actually they do, but I forget to use them). I'm definitely the one who most needs to apply the lessons I write about in this Series. 

But this stuff does work better than what I was doing before. With each rinse and repeat it gets easier, the possibilities expand, and each time I'm ready to stumble forward the next step reveals itself.

I hope that reading this Series will be as helpful for you as writing it has been for me...